The Only Parent Tip You’ll Ever Need!

Parents Are Allowed To Have Tricks Up their Sleeve

Have your little ones ever tried to hide from you inside a clothes rack  in a department store? Ever thrown a fit because they want to eat the food in your grocery cart before you've checked out?  How about interrupting you while you're on the phone? We've all been there! Really, we have. No kid is perfect and I have never met a parent that is without flaws.

When I had two 4 year old little ones running around, a double dose of "look, I can walk now, into everything, and the last one cooking away slowing me down I thought I was going to lose my mind now and again. I probably did a few times. 

That's when I decided to take parenting classes. Don't get me wrong, I loved 90% of day to day life - messes and all. But at some point it dawned on me I was running on instincts alone. I handled a lot and it was fun! Until one of them decided that biting was cute. Then, I thought I lost a kid at Macy's when she was actually right beside me hiding behind some clothing, and grocery shopping became a hit or miss as far as successfully completing the job without one of them shedding tears.

The local library, where we went for story time each week offered free classes and free child-care with the story-time teachers. I thought, "Why not?" I knew a few parents that decided against attending because they felt it would be embarrassing. I have no shame! I am always willing to admit I can be better.

I won't bore you with some of the details.  I mean what parent of a brood like mine needed to rehash correct diaper-changing techniques? I'll skip over the whole co-sleeping debate - it's a personal choice. And, I'll move right past how to get your little one to each vegetables - I never quite figured that one out.

Here's the good part... how to get your child to behave so that they are not only safe but to save you stress and make your life so much easier. It's really quite simple. It's called 1,2,3, Time Out. This is the single most important thing I have ever learned in my life!

When your child misbehaves count 1, 2, and if they haven't stopped by then, you're screwed! No, I'm kidding.  I have seen parents count to 10, count to three, but add a 2 and 1/2, 2 and 3/4 etc. Those are the parents that are having their butts owned by a three year old.

The 1 Trick Every Parent Needs to Know to Ensure their Child Behaves - Nisi Wanders

Seriously, all you have to do is count to 3 and if you make it to three the child goes in a time-out. It will only take a couple of times doing this. Children learn fast!  It's so easy right? It's not. Yes, it is a simple premise, but it only works if the parent makes it work. That's the hard part. 

The Woes Parents Go Through

True story... I have 4 kids and about $200 worth of food in my cart and I cannot get my youngest girl to behave. I tell her I am going to count and if she doesn't straighten out we are all going to the outside bench for her to have a time-out. She laughs at me, doesn't listen, and so I find myself standing over her on the bench while the other three are not too happy. She was just 3 so her time-out time is 3 minutes. Feels like forever sometimes!

Once back inside it doesn't take her long before she's creating havoc again. The other kids are behaving extra good and I do not want to punish them but, I told my daughter if I reached 3 again we were all going home for a time-out and not bringing the food with us. She just had to test me. Within minutes I am loading the four kids back in the car and my very full cart is sorrowfully abandoned at the market.

That's all it took. They saw I would follow through. I never made crazy threats like "if you don't behave Santa won't come this year" or "no video games for a month." I didn't spend a bunch of time explaining why their behavior wasn't good. I didn't try to reason with them. It was always 1, 2, 3, Time-Out. I reached 3 a total of 3 times with my kids. It got to the point wear I could just hold hold up a single finger and they would instantly stop.

Bonus Tricks

Now, truth be told, once their time-out was over I would ask them if they knew what they did wrong and we may have spent a few quick minutes talking. But, only after the time-out was complete. Short and sweet is the name of the game. That's trick number two. Lectures and heartfelt 20-minute talks simply don't work. With the first, they know they have won. With the second, you have wasted your breathe - they stopped listening 3 minutes in.

3 Tricks Every Parent Should Consider Implementing - Nisi Wanders

Last One

This last trick is something others may not approve of. I have received the gamut of looks when implementing this tactic to reign in my kids. I whistled loudly! Yup, as if they were a pack of animals needing to be herded into the pen - I whistled and they came.

Ever have 5 kids at a park full of other children and freak out because you can't see them all at once? Me too!

When my kids all had soccer practice at the same enormous field at the same time but, in different sections, I couldn't be at each of their individual fields at the same time. I know their coaches were watching them, but these coaches were also watching 10 - 15 other kids. I would often scan the fields and if I could not catch a glimpse of them all, I would whistle. Invariably, I would see each kid stop and wave over to me until I caught their eye.

When they were old enough to run around our street with other neighborhood kids all I had to do is whistle and my kids came running home to me.  I actually will still whistle at or for them. Amusement parks, big parties, etc. When we all recently met at a farm for our fall traditional outing, I could see my youngest, now 23, across the way but he could not see me. One whistle later and our eyes meet and the looking for each other is over.

3 tricks and your kids will behave. There have been very few instances where I could not implement one and have a problem solved. 

Try these, especially the first one. Stick to your guns and let me know how things go for you - so far it has worked for every parent I have shared it with over the years that was willing to not cave to the cutest face they ever saw. 🙂

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teaaddictsanonymous
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As a nanny, I struggle with the line of discipline since I’m dealing with other people’s kids. This is a simple tactic that I have definitely used. Some kids absolutely fight time out because the parents never go trough with it but I often feel like I don’t have much of a choice

Emily Fata
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I love this — I agree that it’s super important for parents to have some tricks up their sleeves. You never know when an “emergency” situation will arise, where you’ve got to use one! Haha 🙂 Great post!!

Venus Fitness-Shannon
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Some good tips here. Time outs have been used in our house. I cant whistle so that would be a problem, and i don’ think snapping would have the same effect. 😉

Dia Darling (@Diadoll)
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“If they don’t stop what they’re doing you’re screwed.” HAHA I don’t have kids but as an aunt and former babysitter it’s rough when kids are at that testing the limits age.

Are We Adults Yet
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I’ve always wanted to be able to whistle loudly. I remember as a kid always being so impressed by parents that could do it! That’s a trick that even impresses some of the adults in the room 🙂

Evelyn, PathofPresence
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Bless you, mama! My babies are spaced out by 6 years so challenges are a bit different. Still, the 1-2-3 protocol still works like a charm. 💗

melclayville
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Sticking to your guns is definitely a game changer! I’m not a loud whistler, instead we yodel to each other. Haha. We get a lot of weird looks, but it works every time!

drewandtrishstravelsandadventures
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Great article! I used the 1, 2, 3 Magic on my kids when they were younger (they are now 13, 12, 9 and 9 yep twins) and it saved my sanity so many times! Now I use 1, 2, 3, no Wi-Fi. I have the TWC app where I can change the Wi-Fi password with a click of a button and it works. It’s sad it has come to that, but at least it’s a motivator!

Alicia Taylor at Taylorlife.com
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Actually, I didn’t count at all. I told them once and they knew that they had better stop in their tracks because consequences followed. When a child is running to traffic, the last thing you want to have to do to stop them is count because they don’t believe you are serious till they hear “3”. It may be too late.

Autumn
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A lot of great parenting tips here! Where were you when my kids were little and could have used this information? LOL! I definitely believe in the 1, 2, 3 method!

Courtney Blacher
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Those are such cool tricks! Kids sometimes need some tricks to behave and a little bit of psychology.

Vasundhra
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I think these tips are very important. I especially loved that you asked your kids if they knew what they did wrong. This is very important to ensure that they think about their actions and understand what is right.

lucicoo
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I have no children but I have times that I need to be the really nice one and there are times that you have to discipline them. I really don’t like to do so.

Emily
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Hehe I’ll have to revisit you when I have kids one day… sounds like parenting skills are a muscle to develop!

Crystal Gareau
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It;’s funny how kids think that the rules change depending on which adults are around. My kids act like brats when my parents are around, but they know they’d never get away with stuff like that with me. I always used time out when the kids were smaller. Now I take away electronics, lol.

chewoutloud
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LOL, now i really really wish I could whistle!! Hey, it’s SO much better than yelling, right? It’s always ups and downs with my posse of 3 rambunctious boys, but I do love being their mama. Even if I’m slowly losing all my hair because of them 😉

abcdefghizzy
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As a future parent, I always worry that my lax attitude will bite me in the butt with my kids but I think this is expert advice! Elongating the range of numbers gives them more time to abuse the situation but counting 1, 2, 3 is so concise and it makes them straighten up faster with so much more results. I love that its not severe and still allows room for improvement!